You probably know the sensation. It feels like everything is exactly where it should be. You are aware of your body, and feel tingles up and down your spine. There is a tear building in each of your eyes because of how familiar this feels. You feel open and available to whatever life is prepared to bring for you, and you feel your sense of personal power, knowing that you are capable of creating anything you choose to create in this moment.
This is the experience that I come back to time and time again as I prepare to coach someone, or as I begin my day. In my life, there are specific practices that support me in tuning in, and I consider this state of mind my playground. The familiarity reminds me of how I feel when I am coming home.
As a coach and facilitator, I know how important it is to show up strongly grounded for my clients. When I experience myself as being rooted firmly into the earth, and coming from an integrated place, coaching sessions and facilitation flows, and all of my resources are available to me. I am available to my clients.
In my own path to creating and cultivating a daily personal practice that would return me to this state of mind, I have found significant challenge. Now, my commitment to myself feels easy, and while I am unsure exactly what changed, I have my ideas.
The practice that I am using draws from new tools and practices I have recently discovered, and is tailored to suit where I am at each day. I invite you to use it, draw from it, and customize it to serve you in your commitment to attune, drop in, and come back to a place within yourself that feels like coming home.
This document and guide is dedicated to your personal experience of coming home.
- Roots: the circumstances out of which this practice emerged
- The 3 Part Integrative Personal Practice for Healers, Coaches, Facilitators
- Purpose: Why I work with this practice
- Learning Objectives: objectives for workshops and presentations on this practice
- How to use this practice
- Preperation for the practice
- Components of the Practice
- Frequently Asked Questions
Roots: The circumstances out of which this practice emerge
I remember sitting in the Gateways Bookstore reading Byron Katie and the Sedona Method, and walking myself through the practices in each book when something big hit me. I had written 3 categories of people I wanted to impress, and I wrote out the qualities I would like them to see in me. I remember the shock that I experienced when I realized that the exact opposite of each trait were the primary challenges in my life. I was missing out on the experience of being loved and accepted for who I truly am for fear of rejection. Go figure.
Another thing that changed was that working with the Sedona Method I recognized how often my actions are motivated by the basic desire to receive approval. As of today, my daily practice – which I call the “Integrative Personal Practice” on this site, includes time to reflect on who I truly am, time to reflect on my sense of purpose, time to suss out my goals and release the attachments associated with them, and time to recognize and release other attachments.
The exercises that I use change every day to suit what I am most wanting to experience, but the purpose remains the same. In essence – the purpose of this practice for me, as of this moment, is to wake up. It is to experience re-memberance. (the roots of the word rememberance mean to integrate/ the opposite of dismember) It is to remember who I truly am, and to attune to the larger and deeper aspect of myself… to my fully integrated self.
I quickly realized that I could use my personal practice to create weekend workshop curricula, a coaching style, tools for others, and as a context for learning about the different influences that have shaped my way of coaching. To this avail, I have created a written document that I pasted below this page. It is meant to serve as a resource that you can draw from.
If you are a healer, a facilitator, or a coach of some form, then you already know how important it is to show up from a place of wholeness for your clients. This practice is especially for you.
Integrative Personal Practice for Healers, Coaches, Facilitators
• Clarify what it is that you really want, when you are not limiting yourself or playing small
• Learn how it can be easy and effortless to align thoughts and actions with what you really want
• Learn how to easily see what stands in the way, and to clear it
(these learning objectives are designed to help the program fulfill its purpose)
• Learn a simple, effective process to quickly tune in to what is most real for you, and align your actions with that sense of knowing
o Move towards knowing who you really are
o Align your sense of purpose and mission with that
o Align your goals and action steps with your sense of purpose and mission
o Learn to easily release resistance in its different forms
o Learn to identify and release attachments in their different forms
o Learn how to work with emotions so they support you in your chosen direction
How to use this practice
o Start out by reading it through and make sure that you understand what it entails.
o Order a copy of “the Sedona method” and “I need your love, is that true” by Byron Katie.
o (Byron Katie’s book can be substituted with a set of downloadable forms on her 5 step inquiry process, available on her website at thework.com)
o OR join me for a conference call training or a coaching session to learn these tools.
• Using the practice
o Next, start out by working with Integrative Practice 1. Work through it, targeting for the amount of time delegated for each item, or choosing to expand upon that time given your availability. Part of the genius of this practice working wonders for me is that it can be done very quickly, and that I am becoming more adept at using the tools by giving it 20 minutes a day.
o After a week or two of working with the base practice, consider expanding its scope by replacing the “work” section with some of the alternatives below. If you run into challenges or questions with it, let me know. I am available to support you.
Preperation for the practice
• Letting go of resistance
• Identifying and releasing the basic wants
• Letting go of likes and dislikes
Components of the Practice
Integrative Practice 1
• Plieadian Grounding 2m
• Yoga 2m
• Chi Gung 2m
• Dedication 2m
• Invocation 2m
Alignment Practice 1 (answer the following questions, follow the prompts)
• Who are you? 2m
• As of this moment, what is your purpose? 1m
• As of this moment, what is your mission? 1m
• As of this moment, what are 2-3 goals you are interested in working on?
o List them 2m
o Clear any attachments associated with them 2m
• What are some action steps that you could take to move forward regarding these goals?
o Brainstorm them – 2m
o Select some to take – 2m
o Clear any attachments associated with them – 2m
o You are complete
Alternative themes for “the work” (expanding the scope of the practice)
• Clarify what you are interested in calling forth in your life in each of the following areas
o Essence (the expression of my essential nature)
o Purpose (awareness of and alignment with my sense of purpose)
o Self Care (How I treat myself)
o Right Livelihood (the work I do in the world)
o Aliveness and Connection
o Support (where I get my sense of support from and how consistent it is)
• You can use your own list, and customize this list to suit you.
• For this practice, it is essential that you imagine you have no limitations, and that you dream big. Emphasize realization, insight, and ways of being in the world as opposed to circumstances… because the circumstances that you believe will support you in living this kind of life will change, and may or may not actually be what provides your fulfillment when the cards are on the table.
• When you write your statements, write them in the present, as if they are your experience now, and write them so that they facilitate release. (Eg I easily allow myself to experience loving and caring for myself with care and compassion)
• Move through your invocation list and read them out loud. Clear any attachments or false beliefs before moving on.
• Complete Invocation 2
• Create Goals that are symbolic for moving in that direction
• Move through any of your written goals and clear any attachments to completing them.
• Notice the thoughts that come up, and inquire to see if they are true.
• For your inquiry, use Byron Katie’s 4 steps
Spot Clearing 1
• once you have done some work with identifying which of the basic wants you are experiencing in relation to living your purpose, creating your goals, and whatever else your clearing on, this practice will support you in doing quick work.
• Start with control, ask yourself what one thing is you are wanting to control, and release the attachment. Go to the next item on the list. One way in which you are seeking security, one way or from one person you are seeking approval, one area of my life in the moment that I am resisting, or one place in the past or anticipation of the future you are resisting. Each time, notice the want and release the attachment. Bounce through them with quick releases until you feel complete.
What is an integrative Coaching Practice
• In my world, an integrative coaching practice is a platform for bringing myself into alignment with what I am really wanting. It supports me in taking a bottom up approach to how I show up in the world.
What is a bottom up approach and why is it important?
• Through trial and error I tried to set goals without learning how to work with my attachments to the outcomes, and I asked for accountability and found myself falling short. In learning this approach, I have deepened my inquiry, looking first at coming into clarity about who I am, what I hold as my deepest realizations, and how I can live in accordance to them. Trying to create change from the top down was like swimming upriver. Through this practice I am learning to embrace what is, and to embrace the obstacles that stand before me, as well as to release them. I am learning to allow change to be effortless, and to root myself more fully into the present in this practice.
How do I identify and clear my attachments?
• If you are not experienced and comfortable identifying attachments and letting them go, either pick up a copy of the book “the Sedona method” and work the practices, or ask me for help with this.
How do I identify and clear my false beliefs?
• If you are not comfortable identifying beliefs and inquiring into their truth, either pick up the book “I need your love, is that true” and work the practice in the back of the book, check out Byron Katie’s website and downloadable forms, or ask me to help you with this.
How do I handle old memories that come up, or really deep pain that comes up, while clearing?
• These situations represent doorways. To step through is to open yourself more fully to what is, and there are practices that are designed to support this that will be outlined in future trainings. A great guide to one of them is the book “The Journey” by Brandon Bays
What is the purpose of the grounding portion and can I customize it to suit my style?
• This portion is designed to support me in rooting deeply into the earth and into my body. If you prefer to dance, to stretch, or to meditate to ground yourself, all is well. Make it work for you.